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Vilifying Parents: the #1 Grooming Tactic of Gender Predators

Transgender activism has carried out one incredibly diabolical scheme: vilifying good parents as child abusers.

How has transgender ideology taken over the schools, the healthcare industry, and the culture so quickly and comprehensively? Besides sneaking in on the coattails of the LGB and the civil rights movements, TQ activism has also carried out one incredibly diabolical scheme: vilifying good parents as child abusers.

In her upcoming book Desist, Detrans, & Detox: Getting Your Child Out of the Gender Cult (Partners for Ethical Care, April 2021) Maria Keffler outlines myriad harms that the gender industry perpetrates on children and families. One of the most malevolent is the predatory child-grooming tactics it copies straight from the pedophile playbook:


(Excerpt from Desist, Detrans, & Detox: Getting Your Child Out of the Gender Cult)

One of the most powerful predictors of academic success is parental involvement[i], and the most significant force for stability in a society is the intact nuclear family.[ii] No adults are more influential in a child’s life than his or her parents. No other relationship, save potentially with a spouse, will have as long a history, as deep a present, and as far-reaching a future in that child’s life. The parent-child relationship has been respected and honored throughout human history and across cultures.

Until now.

When something or someone seeks to sever or come between the relationship between a parent and child, except in cases of extreme parental neglect or abuse, that separation is almost always enacted for nefarious reasons, often resulting in victimization of the child.[iii] Isolating a child from parents or guardians is one of the calculated steps that pedophiles and predators take in order to groom a child for sexual abuse.[iv]

One such tactic is revealed in the below excerpt from the New Yorker. Malcolm Gladwell relates psychologist Carla van Dam’s story about her work with former teacher and convicted pedophile Jeffrey Clay.

“Clay … first put himself in a place with easy access to children—an elementary school. Then he worked his way through his class. He began by simply asking boys if they wanted to stay after school. ‘Those who could not do so without parental permission were screened out,’ van Dam writes. Children with vigilant parents are too risky.”[v]


Think about that: “Children with vigilant parents are too risky.” What’s risky? The risk to the child abuser is that he gets caught abusing the child.

We’ve already seen that in-school gender activists are actively pursuing vulnerable kids in order to lure them into the gender cult. Gender & Sexuality Allies club leaders admit they poach kids from the counseling office. GLSEN, Human Rights Campaign’s Welcoming Schools program, the American School Counselors Association, and increasing numbers of school districts have codified their determination to keep sex and gender information about children from the children’s own parents.

We’ve seen counselors and therapists break some of the most basic ethics espoused by their licensing boards. From the Social Workers Code of Ethics:

“Social workers seek to strengthen relationships among people in a purposeful effort to promote, restore, maintain, and enhance the well-being of individuals, families, social groups, organizations, and communities,” and “Social workers should not take unfair advantage of any professional relationship to exploit others to further their personal, religious, political, or business interests.”

Social media gender influencers and self-styled “glitter-moms” tell kids to ditch their own families and come hook up with them.

We’ve seen parents lose custody of their own biological children because they won’t provide wrong-sex hormones. We’ve seen a father go to prison for not protecting the identity of a doctor who coaches kids to threaten suicide in order to get puberty blockers, wrong-sex hormones, and surgery. We’ve seen a boarding school principal arrange for an underage boy to undergo a sex change operation, behind his mother’s back.

What do all of these events, the likes of which are beginning to snowball into an avalanche of catastrophe for children and families, have in common? Loving and concerned parents were circumvented and/or undermined so the child could be victimized by the profit-driven gender industry.

Make no mistake, gender medicine and politics is exactly as loving, kind, and supportive as a pedophile molesting a helpless child in the restroom.

In fact, child molesters and the gender industry do and say exactly the same things. Compare school districts’ transgender-student policies with child predator tactics:

There’s no neutral middle-ground when it comes to the gender industry. One either recognizes the harms and fights for parents’ authority and children’s protections, or one is complicit in the industry’s predatory profiteering and active destruction of children and their families.

Pick your side: parents and protections, or predators and profits.

At Partners for Ethical Care, we’ve chosen the former.

And we’re not backing down.


Partners for Ethical Care works to end the unethical medicalization of children by the gender industry. Contact Partners for Ethical Care at


[i] Chen, G. (2008, March 26). Parental Involvement is Key to Student Success. Retrieved August 19, 2020, from [ii] Gallagher, M., Dalrymple, T., Donald, H., & McGinnis, J. (2019, June 18). Why Marriage Is Good For You. Retrieved August 19, 2020, from [iii] Linehan, G. (2021, January 23). Another central OUTLIER: Rachel McKinnon. Retrieved February 16, 2021, from [iv] National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children. (n.d.). Grooming. Retrieved August 19, 2020, from [v]Gladwell, M. (2012, September 17). In Plain View. Retrieved August 19, 2020, from


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